Dating in today’s world is different dramatically in the past half era. The subject of intercourse, and even the act itself, is becoming more acknowledged as a suitable a part of a date in today’s world. In the 1940′s and early 1950′s the subject of gender was rarely discussed or considered such an open manner, on a day, as it is today. This isn’t to say that sex, or the subject of sex, has never made an ‘appearance’ on a date. On the contrary, sex, on many occasions, has indeed ‘inserted’ itself into a date. The difference between then and now is that those occurrences were the exception, rather than the rule. For that broad most of daters in those times, the subject of sex was kept in the background. Sex was the unspoken of hippo in the room. As one might expect, in a situation where two wholesome young members of the opposite sex are sharing close quarters, there was always an undercurrent of sexual electricity in the air. It just was not openly, or crassly, recognized by the dating couple. Most of the dates back then, followed along similar lines. Within a date, a gentleman may make effective jokes and/or comments, and quite often, playfully hug and grab the girl, but he knew where to draw the collection – and had enough class not to cross it. A girl flirted and looked knowingly at her date, and depending on the circumstances, might allow a certain degree of superficial physical contact. Still, she wouldn’t go so far as to put herself into a compromising situation that she couldn’t get out of.
Most schedules culminated inside a great night kiss. Some went further, and included ‘heavy petting’, which included tongue kissing, fondling, etc. – but no ‘skin’ came out into the open. Finally, a smaller sized group included those who went ‘all the way’ – but as previously mentioned, this group was the exception, as opposed to the rule. It was rare that a dating couple could have sex was developed stages of ‘courtship’. While there is no question that sex was always in the background of a date, the daters had enough self-restraint, or, self-respect, to prevent it from coming to the fore. These days of dating, sex has had a far more prominent role. On most dates, sex is openly discussed and talked about by both daters. There’s little embarrassment in answering questions about one’s past sexual experience, one’s likes or dislikes, or even one’s level of sexual expertise. Questions of this nature are neither embarrassing to the participants, nor, thought of to be intruding upon one’s personal and private business. In fact, if the subject of sex isn’t brought up, the dater is often thought of as boring or inexperienced, rather than respectful of one’s privacy. Even more disturbing is the number of first time daters that participate in sex after knowing each other for simple several hours. Many guys come straight out and ask their date if they have ever had a one night remain, and/or if they would be thinking about having a ‘one night stand’. Few girls are insulted with this line of questioning, and answer as if they were at a job interview. Worse still, some girls consider the request, and some even agree to it.
With regards to sex, it appears like the thought procedure for some of these young women has become slightly warped. Point in fact, an increasing number of young ladies today insist that a certain kind of sex, which I will not describe here, is not, in fact, sex. They say sex only occurs when two people lay together and have sexual intercourse. They say that any other sex act isn’t a sex act at all, and such acts are no worse than the kiss. Using this type of thinking, it’s plain to see how easy it is for unscrupulous males to exploit these naive and ill-informed females.
The level of self-respect and self-control, in many of today’s dating couples, seems to have declined in direct ratio to the increase of their unabashed and unbridled lust. It would be wise, for the daters of today, to keep in mind that while it cannot be denied that having sex is a pleasurable experience, it can also be a costly one. The act of sex carries consequences and responsibilities that are frequently underestimated, and often overlooked. Pregnancy, std’s, family crisis, and a loss of standing in one’s community are just some of the effects of an ‘uncontrolled libido’. Lovemaking choices produced by daters must be beautifully made with foresight, self-control, and a willingness to simply accept responsibility for one’s actions.